Well, it was quite late for me to comment. This happened on Monday morning actually, but I just found out 'bout it quite late in the evening that somehow made me feel troubled. Many might not realized it especially to my classmates as we had class early in the morning. But the rest... I think some of you know 'bout the 'Hari Poligami Sedunia' issued by a very 'clever' and 'considerate' lady to Hot fm during a slot of...something 'bout 'Hari Sedunia' thingy. Seriously, I'm not against poligamy. But please, for those out there who wanted to do so, please think thoroughly. What is your real intention. If it is for your own personal gain, then please saved all that nonsense 'sunnah' n 'payung emas' stuff. You will just shamed your religion and our Prophet. Shame to the religion as our God has clearly giving the guideline about this matter. Shame to our Prophet as his intention was sincere and he could afford it. Plus, you are just being cruel to yourself (like I care much as you bring it to yourself). But what I cannot tolerate more is you are being cruel to others, innocent children especially because of the lust rather than rational thinking. If you can be FAIR, you are RICH and CAN AFFORD to have more than 1 wife, than go ahead. Alhamdulillah even I uttered if you married the ones in need, the poor, widow and suchlike rather than a girl much younger, almost the same as your daughter's age. Again, I am not against this issue. Who am I to say no to 'hukum Allah'. but remember,
for the wives, be a 'isteri solehah' (in any way) as best as you can (a reminder to myself too for the future).
For the girls, look closely on the guy you want to make as a husband, the one who will be your soul mate, your lover, the family anchor, as well as the person who can guaranteed you to enter Jannah easily. If he is 'lelaki soleh', and he wants to engage into poligamy, he will do it in proper way, not cheat behind his wife, marry you in 'Sempadan Thailand' or whatnot. If on the beginning he is already showing this kind of obvious irresponsibility, how can you rely on him to be a family leader, your 'pembimbing' dunia akhirat (duniawi and religion) let alone the one who can pull you away from stumbling into hell. For the single girls who wants to share, do it properly, not forcing your boyfriend to divorce his wife or asking the wife to file a divorce, like what the lady in hot fm that i mentioned earlier did
http://soundcloud.com/hotfm-hangat/hari-poligami-1
so that you can have him by yourself. You are not safe you know, ruining someone else's marriage (meruntuhkan masjid org kata). If not now, in the hereafter. Eventually, karma will find you back.
As for the guys, please consider the decision very carefully. If you have just one wife but barely able to navigate your family, just forget the intention really. If you want to do so (I know some of my male classmates are debating about this), please consider many other things, not just for your own benefit only. You will hurt many people with the reckless action. 1) do you have enough money? - please don't say that women should not be greedy, satisfied with apa yg ada. your intention is greedier already (for those who have insincere intention) 2) are you sure you can be fair to your wives and your children? 3) are you able to lead them (you are the family leader, the anchor you know)? 4) are you tough enough physically, emotionally..... 5) are you ready to take the responsibility as well as the sins done by your wives and your children? 6) and many other considerations.
the responsibility is very, very, VERY high that can weigh you down if you cannot manage it. make sure that you can shoulder it before you make the decision so that you can answer to our Creator when He asks in the hereafter.
*P/S: I almost can guarantee that I will dream about this a little bit at least when I go to sleep after this.
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